Saturday, 16 March 2013

it's you i love

On a sunny winter afternoon in August of 2011, I walked down the aisle at my twin sister's wedding to a song I wrote for her and her groom. Everyone knows how emotional it can be for the bride and groom on their wedding day but no one tells you how emotional it can be to give away a sister. Surprisingly, it was in that moment of walking down the aisle before my sister's entrance that I felt the overwhelming sadness that came with saying goodbye. But I also felt the overwhelming happiness that came with seeing her start a new life with the man standing at the altar with tears in his eyes; the man who had won her heart; the man who had waited just for her.

In the midst of their ceremony in that small stone chapel there was one quote that rang true in my soul: It is not your love that sustains the marriage, but from now on, the marriage that sustains your love (Dietrich Bonhoeffer - 1943). I wonder if more people entered into marriage with this way of thinking, would we see more marriages that are thriving? More families kept intact? More children who feel loved and significant? More peace in our world?

How can I, a woman who has been single for all of her twenties, profess to know anything about love of the romantic kind? Well, just like the couple who pledged their lives to one another on that sunny winter afternoon, I too am waiting. The wise King Solomon writes, "I adjure you... that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases" (Song of Solomon 2:7). You see, love waits. It waits for the right time and it waits for the right person.

I am waiting. But I am not alone. He is waiting too. And at the right time, God will write my love song.

It's You I Love

Music & Lyrics by Brooke Kimberley 

I prayed for you in the darkest night
I dreamt about you in my slumber
I realised that you were the one for me
I waited for you and moved closer

I know God He writes our love song
I'll sing in harmony with you

Sing me the melody of our love
Play me the soundtrack of our life
Let the song resonate in our hearts
It's you I love

You stayed in step now we dance in time
You part the crowd just with your presence
You hold my heart; I'm so blessed to call you mine
You waited for me then gave your yes

I know God He writes our love song
I'll sing in harmony with you

Sing me the melody of our love
Play me the soundtrack of our life
Let the song resonate in our hearts
It's you I love

I am better for knowing you
And I won't turn away
All of my dreams they live in you
I pledge my life this day

Sing me the melody of our love
Play me the soundtrack of our life
Let the song resonate in our hearts
It's you I love

It's you I love
It's you I love
It's you I love

Monday, 11 March 2013

the sustaining of life... part two

Welcome back! In my blog post last week I started to write about seven elements that sustain life: air, water, food, sunshine, rest, exercise, love. Today I'll explore the elements of rest, exercise and love...

rest

Rest... do you remember this? Because we live in a world that never switches off, rest is something we purposefully have to make time for! We have forgotten how to balance our work lives with our social lives and still have time for self-care... and in order to restore the balance this means prioritising rest! Due to electric light our night can now be as active as our day, and the effect of this has been that we are cutting back on sleep. Sleep is essential for sustaining life as there are many restorative processes that take place when we are sleeping. In fact, people who sleep for less than six hours a night have a shorter lifespan than those who sleep for seven to eight hours. I used to cut back on sleep. Now, I actively prioritise sleep. If I don't prioritise sleep I know I won't function well the next day, and this will impact on my whole week, as well as the long-term state of my health.

If you have trouble stopping for a break during the day or getting to bed earlier at night all you need to do is change your mindset and your routine. As my mum always says, "You can have it all but you can't have it all at once". Sometimes, we try to do it all, be it all, have it all. It astounds me how we place value on things that will never pay us back, and leave the things that we know are beneficial until later. At some point, our bad habits catch up with us, and like me, you will find that you will be forced to do the things that you had a choice to do before. 

So, choose to rest. 

exercise

We are made to move, my friends! Exercise has many physical and physiological benefits, so you will not only be more fit and energetic with regular exercise but you will experience better rest and sleep, better appetite control and better stability within your life. An important aspect of regular exercise is that it should be enjoyable for you, otherwise you may have trouble continuing your exercise routine. I like to walk, run, swim, dance and do Pilates. I always make time for exercise in my weekly schedule, and make sure that I am physically active every day, even if I am just spending physical energy doing my grocery shopping (I do a lot of walking and carrying!). Let me say, I don't spend hours in the gym every day, but I find as long as I am moving my body regularly, then I am experiencing the benefits of regular exercise. 

If you are unsure of how to start, aim to walk everyday for an amount of time that you know you can do on a good day and a bad day. Every week start to increase the length of time you are walking until you are walking for 30 minutes at least 5 to 7 times a week. I started at 12 minutes at my worst, and my mum had to take my shoes off at the end of my walk because I was so exhausted! Trust me, you can do this! Walking is the most natural exercise we can do... and best prepares us for living and sustaining our day to day lives.

love

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. John 3:16. 

We all need to be loved. Love is practiced in the context of relationship; the most integral relationship to the sustaining of my life is my relationship with my Father God. He gave his Son, Jesus Christ, to the world so that I may come into relationship with him. His love for me is unconditional. His love for me sets me free.

There is nothing greater than love for the sustaining of life. Nothing.


Saturday, 2 March 2013

the sustaining of life... part one

After I finished my music degree, I worked as a carer for people with severe physical and intellectual disabilities for a few years. It was a hard job, but boy, was it a rewarding one! It was a job I absolutely loved but had to give up because I wasn't able to physically cope with the work anymore due to my own illness, and I could no longer handle the crazy hours that go hand in hand with shift work. Almost a year and a half later I still think about the beautiful people I had the privilege of supporting during their day to day lives. And I miss them. I cooked a lot of meals, gave a lot of showers, and wiped a lot of bottoms... but what struck me the most about assisting people with disabilities was this - we are not that different. In fact, we are more similar than we are different. And this is because we are human beings; and humans, we all need the same things in order to sustain the lives we have been given.

In the world of natural living we find seven elements that sustain life: air, water, food, sunshine, rest, exercise, love. I would like to briefly explore air, water, food and sunshine in this post, and the rest of the elements in my next post. Hopefully, this inspires you to look into these elements, and to test out the importance of including these elements in the structure of your life.

air

You may never have heard this surprising little nugget of information but... we get more energy from the air we breathe than from the water we drink and the food we eat! It is through the act of breathing we obtain the oxygen our bodies need to function at their best. Oxygen is the key to energising the body, and the more oxygen we deliver to our cells, the more energy our bodies will have. 

I learnt the power of oxygen on a flight to London at Christmas in 2011. I was so exhausted from the active lead up to my trip that I ended up suffering from nausea that could not be alleviated once on the plane. The kind air stewards decided to give me nearly three tanks of oxygen through a breathing mask to help settle my nausea. It not only helped my nausea but I felt my energy level pick up during the flight. In the end, I felt slightly addicted to this amazing substance called oxygen!

Without oxygen the body cannot perform the functions it needs for the sustaining of life. Oxygen is involved in processes such as digestion, assimilation of nutrients from food, and the elimination of wastes. Without access to oxygen tanks the best way to increase your intake of oxygen is to practice deep breathing. Our main breathing muscles are the intercostal muscles, which are the muscles between the ribs, and the diaphragm, an involuntary muscle which is basically the "floor" of the ribcage. You will see and feel deep breathing. As the air goes in there is an expansion through the ribcage and the abdomen, and as the air goes out there is a contraction through the ribcage and the abdomen. Try some slow deep breaths in this pattern: in, out, pause, repeat. Imagine your lungs are like balloons that get bigger as the air goes in and smaller as the air goes out. 

water

Though I am a vegan mainly for health reasons I cannot ignore the ethical side of choosing to follow a plant-based diet. Our choices do affect the world around us. For example, it takes up to 50,000 litres of water to produce 1 kilogram of beef compared to only 2,500 litres to produce 1 kilogram of white rice, and less for most fruit and vegetables (Vegetarian Network Victoria, Eating Up the World, February 2009). I don't know about you but I can think of better ways this water could be used. Fresh water is an invaluable resource. Humans need water to survive and our thirst is the guide to how much water we need to drink, which is about 2 litres a day depending on the climate, your diet and your activity level. 

food

I've previously written a post about my view on food, which you'll find on this blog under the name finding food. To put it simply, food is fuel, and my belief is that we function best when we follow a plant-based diet. So, I suggest to do as your mother told you and eat your vegetables!!!

sunshine

Now I know that in Australia we have a massive hole in the ozone layer but we still need the benefits of the sun's rays! There are only two ways to obtain our vitamin D - sunshine and supplements. Unless you live in foggy Londontown I'd suggest trying sunshine out for a change. The ultraviolet rays of the sun trigger vitamin D synthesis in the skin when you are exposed to sunlight. The production of vitamin D is essential for human health and for providing energy to our bodies. The recommended level of exposure to sunlight every day is 10-15 minutes on bare skin in direct sunshine in order to produce the vitamin D we need. I've also found sunshine to be a natural way to highlight the colour of my hair... it's not only chemical free but it's actually free!

For more information I highly recommend the book How a Man Lived in Three Centuries: The complete guide to Natural Health by Roger French, which is an excellent resource for those inspired to live in a more natural way.

To be continued... 




Saturday, 23 February 2013

grated root vegetable salad with a side of gratefulness

Hello again! 

I'd like to start my blog post this week by saying thank you to all of you who are reading my blog and sending me lovely messages in response to the things I write. I'm truly thankful that you take the time to read my musings. Although I am not writing these posts so that I can be a world famous writer, I do feel appreciative that others are finding what I have to say worth reading. And this leads me to my latest thoughts, which for awhile now have been gravitating towards gratefulness. Hmm... Insert a pause here for dramatic effect!

The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines the word grateful as "appreciative of benefits received". The word gratefulness is a noun, and a noun, if I remember correctly from my primary school days, is a naming word. So, in this sense, the word gratefulness is a name for the state of being appreciative, or thankful. I don't know about you, but sometimes, I find it hard to remember to be grateful. Thanks to my parents, I have learnt good manners, and I always say "please" and "thank you" at the appropriate moments. But being conscious of "benefits received" does not necessarily mean that I am appreciative on a heart level.

My mum takes a positive step in the direction of maintaining gratefulness in her heart. Every day at 3pm the alarm on her phone goes off with a reminder that simply says "be thankful". No matter what is happening that day, she is reminded to be thankful for what she has in that moment. Sometimes the moments suck. Often the moments are the day-to-day routine of our lives. But more frequently, it's the moments that change you. For me, it's the moment I open the fridge for a meal and I am struck by how incredibly blessed I am to not only have food in there, but to be able to eat in a way that nourishes my body and improves my quality of life. Grateful. It's the moment I find common ground with someone and realise this person will be my friend. Grateful. It's the moment my sister walks down the aisle to marry the man who loves her more than I do. Grateful. It's in the moments that I am choosing to be grateful. 

What will it take for us to see the benefits we have received? In the Bible it says, "Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change" (James 1:17). I believe that everything good in my life is from God. God is a good Father, and His character is unchanging, which means that He can't give me something that isn't good! Just like a good dad, He gives me everything I need. What then is my excuse to not live in a state of being appreciative? Gratefulness is powerful when I make the choice to practice it. Not only does it change me, it helps me to turn my attention to others who may not receive the benefits in life that I do.

I encourage you to take the time today to open your eyes to the things that you have to be thankful for and to remember to practice gratefulness every day in every moment. 

grated root vegetable salad

This salad is both easy to prepare and easy on your digestive system; a fresh and filling meal!

1 cup carrot, grated
1 cup beetroot, grated
1 cup daikon, grated*
1/2 cup flat leaf parsley, chopped
1/3 cup sultanas or currants
1/3 cup pumpkin seeds
Handful fresh mint, shredded
1 tbsp apple cider vinegar
1 tbsp olive oil
Sea salt to taste

Place all ingredients in a bowl, toss and serve. 

*A daikon is a white East Asian radish and is a natural diuretic that also cuts through fats. 

Saturday, 16 February 2013

saying yes to saying no

In the last few years I have relearnt the importance of saying the word "no". Like a wannabe toddler I've flexed my "no" muscle many times over and strengthened my ability to say, and mean, "NO!".  Often this has been to the disapproval of others, which is pretty much the main reason why I developed the self-destructive habit of always saying "yes" in the first place; I didn't want to let anyone down! But, I have come to understand that if I don't say "no" to some things, I will not be able to say "yes" to anything...

Now this may sound all reverse psychology to you, but to me this is a new way of thinking and living. After my diagnosis with ME/CFS I was forced to make changes in basically every area of my life. In order to aid my recovery process I decided I would make my life choices based on saying "yes" to the things that helped make me better and "no" to the things that made my condition worse. Along the way this has meant that I have had to give things up and turn things down. I've lost friends, quit jobs and moved on from places. But here is the beautiful thing about loss; it makes room in your life for the new. For all the loss I have also gained. And in gaining through loss, I appreciate the gain I have received even more. It has more value to me because of the pain and sacrifice of the loss that I had to endure.

In saying "no" I have found my voice. And I use my voice to set boundaries around who I am. Cloud and Townsend write this:

Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership. Knowing what I am to own and take responsibility for gives me freedom ... Taking responsibility for my life opens up many different options. However, if I do not "own" my life, my choices and options become very limited.

Boundaries are not walls; boundaries are fences with gates. With boundaries I can keep the good in my life and keep the bad out. In saying "no" to the bad I am being freed up to say "yes" to the good. With boundaries, I am no longer so limited by my circumstances; I am becoming empowered despite them.

I can now make choices without feeling guilty. I may no longer be in a season of saying "no" all the time but then I don't need to be. Through saying "no" I have established boundaries that are strong enough to allow me to say "yes" to the things that help move my life forward. Through a disabling circumstance I have realised that I am more able than I thought. And though I will still be flexing and strengthening my "no" muscle, I'm looking forward to a season of saying "yes". But, as I have come to understand, there will always be value in saying "yes" to saying "no".






Saturday, 9 February 2013

raw vegan treats

If you are anything like me and have a bit of a sweet tooth, the thought of no longer enjoying delectable, sweet treats in your diet is almost too much to handle! However, I personally do not want to consume food that not only has no nutritional value but in order to digest the food, my body must take from it's store of precious vitamins and minerals. For example, many people consume dairy products because they are marketed as a good source of calcium. Dairy products are acidic to the body and disease thrives in an acidic environment. So for your body to maintain an acid-alkaline balance calcium is leached from your bones. The very reason you are consuming dairy is probably the very reason why you should limit it in your diet or give it up altogether. But, I digress. If you are looking for some ways to replace the sugar, dairy and fat laden products that are found on supermarket shelves read on for some healthy treat ideas.

fresh fruit

My mother always repeatedly told me two things during my childhood and so much so that now I hear her voice in my head! If I didn't know the meaning of a word or how to spell a word I was told to "look it up in the dictionary", and if I was hungry and asking for a snack in between meals I was told to "have a piece of fruit". Most of the time I wasn't actually hungry, so I would wait for my next meal. So, I say the same thing to you if you feel like snacking: go for the fruit first! Try to eat seasonal fruit, and if you eat fruit by itself, you will digest it easier as it passes through your stomach within 30 minutes. Fruit is low in calories, full of nutrients your body needs to thrive, and great for your digestion and elimination due to the fibre content. If you want something that tastes more like a dessert, freeze the fruit and eat out of the freezer! Fruit that works really well for this are bananas, berries, mangos and also grapes. If you have a juicer, select the blank plate and feed the frozen fruit through for a natural, delicious ice cream!

superfood trail mix

I love to make a good, wholesome trail mix. It's super duper easy to pop in your bag and take with you anywhere you need to go. This is great for people who are very active and have high energy needs. A trail mix usually contains a mixture of dried fruit, nuts and seeds, so you are getting a boost of natural sugars, protein and good fats. I have a standard trail mix which consists of about an equal quantity of dried fruit to nuts and seeds. I always buy organic and my dried fruit is sulphur and preservative free. I also "activate" my nuts and seeds, which releases the enzyme inhibitors so they are easy to digest. This involves soaking them in filtered water for 12 hours and dehydrating them at 40 degrees Celsius for 24 hours. My favourite combo is dried bananas, dried figs, dried apricots, dried goji berries, activated almonds, activated walnuts, activated pepitas/pumpkin seeds (a great source of iron), raw brazil nuts and some dried shredded coconut. Super duper yum!

chia pudding

I have a young friend who is ten years old and when she comes over to my house she always requests this sweet pudding I made for her one day with chia seeds. Chia seeds are a fantastic source of Omega 3 AHA, dietary fibre and other vitamins and minerals such as iron, calcium, potassium and vitamin C, as well as being a source of complete protein. When liquid is added to chia seeds a gel forms, making these nifty seeds useful as a replacement for eggs, and they can also be added to green smoothies, sprinkled on your breakfast or eaten as my berry chia pudding which consists of 1/4 cup chia seeds, 1/2 cup frozen berries, 1 tablespoon pure maple syrup, 1/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon, juice of 2 oranges and pulp of 1 passionfruit. Mix together well and let the mixture set in the fridge for 15 to 20 minutes before eating.

do-it-yourself popcorn

Even though I now eat a raw vegan diet I am not against consuming some wholesome popcorn every now and then if the occasion calls for it... namely, the movies! The smell of popcorn fills every movie theatre so instead of missing out I make my own! I use nutritional yeast, which gives the popcorn that cheesy taste, and gives me a good dose of vitamin B12. Again, I use organic popcorn kernels, and pop the kernels in coconut oil (also known as coconut butter). Coconut oil is the only oil I will cook with as it is the healthiest and safest, and will never go rancid. Cover the bottom of the pot with coconut oil and a single layer of popcorn kernels. Pop the kernels at a medium heat with the lid on. Turn off the heat and allow to cool before adding a seasoning of nutritional yeast and Himalayan crystal salt or Celtic sea salt according to taste. For sweetness, add a small amount of coconut sugar instead of the nutritional yeast. 

brooke's bliss balls

Bliss balls are the superstars of the raw food world. You can find many recipes on the internet and all you need is a high quality blender or food processor to make them. Bliss balls are pretty much your go-to when you have a craving for anything that has chocolate or crunch! You can mix up the ingredients and create your own, and they're great for a snack or as a dessert. You can also transport them easily so you will never have to feel left out at a dinner party again. And the bonus is that you won't have a sugar hangover after eating them!

1 cup pitted dates (substitute: dried plums or dried apricots)
1 cup walnuts or cashews (substitute: almonds or pecans)
1/4 cup dried goji berries
1/4 cup cacao or carob powder (carob is caffeine-free)
1 tablespoon almond butter
1/4 cup dried desiccated coconut, for rolling

Process all ingredients in a food processor or blender (if using a blender start with the nuts, then add the dried fruit and then mix in all the other ingredients). Take a tablespoon of the mixture to roll into a ball, and if desired, roll in the dried desiccated coconut. Continue making balls until the mixture runs out. Store bliss balls in a covered container in the fridge (for a month) or the freezer (up to 6 months).

These are a few ideas to get you started. Hopefully you will find these sweet treats satisfying; I know I do! Speaking of raw vegan treats, my stomach is starting to rumble, and I hear the bliss balls calling my name...



Friday, 1 February 2013

the daniel fast

In the quest for healing I have learned that you must be extreme in order to see radical change in your life. You must go to the places that others dare not go and do the things that others dare not do. I have experienced this on a physical level, particularly in the last year, as I have done detox after detox and fast after fast, all in the name of good health and natural living. But, in the quest for healing I must go beyond the physical, and charter the stormy unchartered waters of my emotional and spiritual wellbeing too. You see, I am not just on a quest for restored physical health but I am on a quest for wholeness.

And so, I dare to do the Daniel Fast. What is the Daniel Fast and why would I dare to do it? The Daniel Fast is a 21-day restrictive plant-based partial fast that many Christians use as a tool to draw near to and encounter God. The fast is based on the experiences of the prophet Daniel from the Old Testament in which there are two accounts of Daniel practicing a partial fast, where he abstains from some food, but not all food. In the first account Daniel and his friends only ate foods that came from seeds (i.e. plant-based foods) and only drank water (Daniel 1: 12). In the second account he consumed "no delicacies, no meat or wine" (Daniel 10:3) for a full three weeks.

Though he was restricting food and drink, there were spiritual purposes behind both accounts. As my Daniel Fast approaches I am not only deciding what food I will restrict (I have to be very specific about what "delicacies" I will abstain from!) but I am setting out my spiritual purposes for fasting before God. And just as God heard Daniel (Daniel 10:12) I believe God will hear me too. Yes, God already hears me; He hears my prayers, my thoughts, and He hears my heart. But when I choose to abstain from certain things like food, for spiritual purposes, I am purposely making room in my life so that I may hear Him.

And it is in this give-and-take of relationship that God works to restore me spiritually. For this is the very reason that God gave His only Son to the world; that through Jesus Christ we may be reconciled to Him. So, even though it is important for me to take care of the physical body He gave me, in my quest for wholeness I must also address my spiritual wellbeing. I believe that spiritual restoration comes from being in a relationship with God. Fasting is just an expression of my commitment to Him, and however extreme it may seem, it is something I am willing to do in order that I may be whole.

You may be reading this and realise that you too need to do a "spiritual detox". For more information on the Daniel Fast I recommend reading The Daniel Fast by Susan Gregory or The Ultimate Guide to the Daniel Fast by Kristen Feola. For now, I'll leave you with a favourite plant-based recipe of mine that you can eat for a Daniel Fast lunch or dinner. This recipe uses the grain-like seed quinoa, which is a source of complete protein as it contains all nine essential amino acids, and is also high in dietary fibre, phosphorus, magnesium, iron and calcium. Sprouting the quinoa will make all these nutrients, vitamins and minerals more easily assimilated into your body.

sprouted quinoa tabbouleh

1 cup quinoa, soaked for 2 hours and sprouted for 24 hours
1 cup tomatoes, diced
1 cup cucumber, diced
1/2 cup flat leaf parsley, roughly chopped
1/4 cup mint leaves, roughly chopped
1/4 cup spring onion, chopped
2 tablespoons olive oil
1 teaspoon sea salt
1/2 teaspoon cayenne pepper
Juice of a lemon

Rinse and soak the quinoa in filtered water for 2 hours. Drain quinoa and let sit in a medium bowl for 24 hours at room temperature to sprout. Marinate the sprouted quinoa in the olive oil, lemon juice, sea salt and cayenne pepper while you prepare the remaining ingredients. Add and toss until well mixed. Keeps well in the fridge for up to three days.